Tapping Tips

Cut the words

If you are really feeling overwhelmed, skip the set-up and just tap around the points with something like: “this feeling.” Or just tap the points and say nothing. The words are to keep our attention on what we are tapping on. Sometimes our attention is so much there already that it doesn’t need help.

Cut the fat

Some people naturally have slower metabolic rates than others. That means they will use fewer of the calories from their food as fuel and start to turn the rest into body fat much sooner than others do.

And a lot of women may start with an average rate and end up with a very slow-burning metabolism after going on and off diets or alternating starving and binging or taking diet pills for decades. It is hardly surprising if part of them thinks there is a famine and tries its best to ensure they survive this perceived starvation danger by gearing right down metabolically so they burn as little of their reserves as possible.

Besides doing the practical things to speed up metabolism – having breakfast, exercising aerobically and building muscle, reducing stress, getting enough sleep – we can tap.

A great way to do this is to tap and talk to the part of us that is trying to protect us in this way. Thank it for its intention and tell it we have plenty of nourishment available, there is no famine, it is safe for us to burn up food because more is easily available.

(There are more hints about using EFT for eating and weight in my book Introduction Emotional Freedom Techniques – a practical guide available from my website or from Amazon.)

When someone keeps pushing your buttons

Have you ever found that someone presses your buttons disproportionately to what they are doing or saying? When you know you are over-reacting over and over but find yourself unable to stop? Do you tap and the negative feelings seem to go, but next time the same thing happens they come back again?

Tapping on specific events with someone who gets to you may detach the emotion from your current feelings about them. But it will not necessarily immunize you against getting just as angry or upset or hurt next time.

And when this is someone you have to deal with regularly, perhaps a colleague or a boss, this can make life really stressful.

When there is a person in our lives who really triggers us like this, it is often not really because of their behaviour or their vibe but because they remind us, unconsciously, of someone else who has upset us in the past.

Next time it happens try this: close your eyes and notice the feeling that comes up for you. Feeling can be emotion or physical sensation or, ideally, a combination of the two.

Let your mind drift back to an earlier time you had this feeling. And when you feel you have it, see if you can drift back even further to an earlier time still.

Now tap on what came into your mind. If it is a specific event with a different person, tap on the memory of that event. Or if it is just a feeling you had being around a different person, begin to explore your relationship with that person. What did they do or say that upset you? Or what did they stop you from doing?

If you direct your tapping not to whatever or whoever is the trigger in your current life but to the person or event this unconsciously reminds you of, it will not only have the best chance of clearing your current problem but also of stress proofing yourself again further reminders in the future.

I am not good enough

Do you ever beat yourself up with the “not good enough” Or similar stuff? And do you think if you tap on all your short-comings and failings and self-criticisms, and if you just find a way to have more self-esteem you would be okay?

Would this still be true if you really accepted yourself?

You probably know in your head that we are all and always will be just works in progress. But has your heart got the message?

Try these versions of the set-up to see if they help get the message to where it really matters.

  • “I accept myself anyway.”
  • “I accept myself with compassion.”
  • “I accept myself without judgment.”
  • Or even just say: “I accept myself” as if you really mean it.